Gary L. Elfring
September 30, 1940 – April 11, 2025
A Service of Witness to the Resurrection for Gary Elfring will be held at First Presbyterian Church, 321 W. South Street, Kalamazoo, MI, on Saturday, May 3, 2025, at 7 pm (Please note that South Street will be closed during that weekend for the Kalamazoo Marathon events). The family invites you to join them for refreshments and reminiscing prior to the service, from 1-4 pm at Parkview Hills Clubhouse. The clubhouse is located at 3707 Greenleaf Circle, Kalamazoo, MI. When asked if he was hungry, Gary always responded, “I could eat.” We hope you will share your memories of Gary with us as a way to have his spirit live through all who knew and loved him. During his life, Gary was a faithful contributor to the churches he attended and donated to many of the music and theater organizations in the communities in which he lived. In lieu of flowers, the family encourages donations to similar charities that hold meaning for you.
Obituary
Gary L. Elfring, aged 84, passed away at his home in Kalamazoo on April 11, 2025, surrounded by members of his loving family and his caregivers.
Gary was born Gerard Elfring in Hengelo, The Netherlands, on September 30, 1940, to Henry and Erna (Dijkman) Elfring where he lived with his parents and three younger siblings until the family immigrated to the United States in 1957. With the help and support of relatives, the family settled in Holland, Michigan; Gerard opted for the more American sounding first name of Gary, and he enrolled at Hope College while also serving as the primary English speaker for the family. After graduating from Hope College in 1961, Gary attended Purdue University, earning a master’s degree in mathematical statistics two years later. While at Hope he met his first wife, Sandy (Kragt) Elfring, also from Holland, and they married in 1962 (div. 1984). After short stays in New Hampshire and New Jersey, they settled down in Kalamazoo Michigan, raising their two children while he was employed as a Biostatistician at The Upjohn Co., a tenure that lasted for over 30 years. Gary was passionate about his work in clinical research and was a key contributor in the approval of therapeutic medicines at Upjohn, which continued during a 15-year tenure at PTC Therapeutics in New Jersey.
Two of his many interests outside of work, European football and the fine arts, also were notable components in his life’s journey. The former found an outlet spending many hours as a soccer referee on pitches around the area and working his way from shepherding 6-year-olds at his first AYSO game in 1978 to achieving the accreditations to officiate Division I College games in the late 1980’s and 90’s. It was his love of music and singing that led him to join church choirs, initially at Bethany Reformed Church and later at First Presbyterian Church where he would eventually meet his wife, Janet Lawing, who shared many of his same interests in their careers and appreciation of the arts. Unbeknownst to all at the time, Gary refereed college games in which Janet’s three brothers played. Gary and Janet were married in 1991, welcoming her two daughters to the family that he deeply cared for. Their continued work in the pharmaceutical industry led them to the Northeast, and they spent 19 years in Lebanon, NJ, where they enjoyed exploring the abundance in nature around them, the nearby access to an array of cultural and fine art events, and taking advantage of every opportunity to watch and cheer on the Dutch National football team and favored English Premier League team, Liverpool FC, from the comfort of their home. Following Gary’s diagnosis of Parkinson’s Disease in 2020, they moved back to Kalamazoo in 2022 to be closer to members of both of their families, affording more opportunities to gather for birthdays, holidays, and all the precious moments in between. All members of his family fondly remember Gary as a dedicated, loving, and patient man who cherished spending time and sharing his quick wit with his loved ones, friends, and colleagues.
Gary is preceded in his passing by his parents; brother, Ben Elfring; and the mother of his children, Sandy. His spirit lives on through his children, Greg (Patty Smanik) Elfring and Monica (Michael Foley) Elfring; his wife, Janet, and her children, Abi (Mark) Winston and Emily Lawing; granddaughters, Sara Elfring and Meg Elfring; step-grandchildren, Taylor Moose, Morgan Moose, and Carter Chambless; his brother, John Elfring; sister, Ina Darden; brother-in-law, Steve Darden; nephews Michael (Alice) Darden, Jesse (Alice) Darden, and Lucas (Erica) Darden; and all the friends and colleagues that he encountered on his life’s journey.

My wife and I met Gary through his sister, Ina, an old friend. Over the years when Gary would visit in Chapel Hill, we’d make a point of seeing him because we were very fond of him. One of my favorite memories of Gary transpired in a bar where friends had gathered. I don’t remember how the conversation started, but somehow Gary and I were at the corner of a table or next to each other at the bar. One of us mentioned the filmmaker Ingmar Bergman. The next thing I knew we were reminiscing about Bergman films we’d seen and loved. It was a great evening. Gary was such a kind, gentle and interesting person.
I had the honor to be Gary’s home companion and helper for almost 5 months. I’ve come to realize that we didn’t meet until Gary needed me and I needed him. I learned so much from him, and will cherish the memories we’ve shared. He was always so kind, quick witted, and selfless. My favorite memory with Gary was walking into his room every morning when he was waking up and saying “good morning Gary!” He always put on the biggest smile and it was truly the best part of my day. We would sing, he would teach me some Dutch, and we would eat a whole lot of chocolate together! He reminisced on his childhood and told me amazing stories about moving to America, soccer, and his career.Truly an incredible man and I’m so honored to have been part of his life. I’m so thankful to have met his family along the way and the bond that we share is unbreakable. For those that are struggling, know that grief is just love with no where to go. I know Gary would want all of you to put that love and energy into yourself. All my love and condolences to his family and friends.